Do you have that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach that your partner is being unfaithful? More often than not, your instincts are correct, and infidelity is happening, but the tricky part is first, proving it, and second, deciding how you will move forward. Is this the end of the line for your relationship? Or are you willing to try and rebuild your trust and stay together? Whichever path you decide to take, let’s talk about how a lie detector in Knoxville can help you to uncover the truth and help rebuild the relationship if that’s what you want.
Uncovering The Truth
If you want to salvage your relationship after infidelity, the first step is to ensure the truth is laid out in front of you both. If you suspect your partner, having them take a lie detector in Knoxville is an excellent way to uncover the truth. Even if they have already admitted to cheating, some couples find a lie detector in Knoxville can help determine if the full extent of the infidelity has been uncovered or if some secrets are still being kept. If you are going to save the relationship, it is essential that you have a fresh start, with everyone laying their cards on the table.
Learning to Rebuild Trust
According to studies, 60 to 75 percent of couples will stay together after infidelity. That’s probably a lot more than you might think! If you are one of those couples who want to stay together, it is important to know that it will take work. Once trust has been broken, it can be challenging to rebuild it - but it is certainly not impossible. At Kendall Investigations, we work with many marriage and relationship therapists who often recommend that the cheating partner participates in a lie detector in Knoxville. Using the purpose of this is not to uncover additional infidelity but to draw a line under it. Usually, the unfaithful party will write a disclosure statement detailing their infidelity. Once this is complete, taking a lie detector in Knoxville can help their partner to accept that this disclosure is the whole truth and there are no more affairs or dalliances that might be uncovered later. This helps to achieve closure and gives the couple a fresh start to rebuild their relationship.
Tips For Rebuilding Your Relationship
If you have already taken a lie detector in Knoxville and are now ready to work on moving forward with your relationship, you might need a few pointers. That’s why we’ve put together this list of some of the things you can do to start rebuilding trust and get your partnership back on track.
1 - Don’t Ignore the Infidelity
One of the biggest mistakes that you can make following infidelity is trying to brush it under the rug and carry on as normal. This is not healthy, and it will always be the elephant in the room. It is important to discuss the betrayal and for both parties to lay out their emotions surrounding it. If there is an underlying problem in the relationship that triggered one partner to be unfaithful, then that is something that needs to be addressed; otherwise, history is likely to repeat itself.
2 - Don’t Hover Over Your Partner
Have you ever heard of the term ‘helicopter parent’? It refers to parents who are constantly hovering over their child’s shoulder, never allowing them independence. After infidelity, it is common for the wronged partner to turn into a ‘helicopter partner’! It is only natural to want to watch your partner’s every move to make sure that they are staying true. Maybe you are even checking their emails and phone? While feeling like you have to do this is understandable, it does nothing to rebuild trust. It only serves as a constant reminder to your partner that you have no trust in them. As hard as it may be, you need to force yourself to take a step back and allow your partner to prove themselves to you.
3 - Take Accountability
For the cheater, it is important to take Accountability for your actions. Own up to your mistakes and don’t make excuses or try to shift the blame. Even if there are problems in the relationship that you feel led you to infidelity, it is important that you don’t try to absolve yourself of blame because of them. Ultimately, it was still your choice to be unfaithful, and it is important to own up to that and apologize for your actions.
4 - Set Clear Boundaries
Any temptation to rekindle the affair must be taken off the table. The guilty party should immediately cut off all contact wherever possible. That means deleting contact information and blocking them on social media. There is no reason to be in touch with them, so you don’t need a way to contact them. In some cases, such as when the affair partner is a colleague, it may be impossible to avoid contact altogether. If this is the case, then it is important to set clear boundaries. You must not only let them know that you will only discuss work and only when necessary, but you should also be completely transparent with your partner about the level of communication that you have with them. All interactions need to be discussed so that you do not appear to be meeting in secret.
Uncover the truth!
Ken Shull served as a Special Agent with the FBI for almost 25 years and was head of the FBI Polygraph program until his retirement in 2001. At that time he set up the Kendall Investigations practice as a private investigator in Knoxville, TN offering Polygraph services, private investigations, and security guards. Ken is a member of the American Polygraph Association and The American Association of Police Polygraphists.
The Truth is Still the Truth Even if No One Believes it, A Lie is Still a Lie Even if Everyone Believes it.